Mastering Your Mean Girl with Melissa Ambrosini (TBTPS12)

Mastering Your Mean Girl with Melissa Ambrosini (TBTPS12)

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Melissa Ambrosini is the author of Mastering Your Mean Girl, an entrepreneur, motivational speaker, and self­love teacher. In her signature straight­talking style, Melissa teaches women how to master their inner Mean Girl, smash through limiting beliefs, and ditch the self­doubt so that they can start truly living the life of their dreams.

Named a ‘self­help guru’ by Elle Magazine, she is known for her inspirational live events, books, booming online community, her weekly Goddess Groups, game­changing online programs such as the MA Academy Business Bootcamp, her soulful guided meditations and empowering keynote talks. Her mission is to inspire women across the globe to create a heart­centred life that’s wildly wealthy, fabulously healthy and bursting with love.

We cover so many wonderful topics in this interview. Here’s just a tiny sample of what you’ll hear:

  • How Melissa came to create a business from her blog
  • How Melissa plans her calendar on a day-to-day basis
  • Her non-negotiables for health and love + how this has helped her to create a wildly wealthy business
  • Melissa’s view on money, women and business
  • Melissa’s thoughts and actions around failure in business
  • How Melissa manages her day when life is incredibly busy
  • What makes Melissa feel sexy
  • Melissa’s desires for her future (including babies, travel and writing NY Times Bestsellers)
  • Where Melissa uses her masculine energy to her favour in business
  • How she balances her feminine and masculine energies while running a business and being a wife and step-mum + what this looks like in her life

Listen to the podcast here

Download the complete transcript of this one hour interview to read and/or share with a friend



We mentioned

Book: Mastering Your Mean Girl (Buy the book)

Book: David Deida: Dear Lover

Book: David Deida: The Way Of The Superior Man

Music: Broadhurst – (single) Little Lover

Find Melissa

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Favourite Chunks:

Melissa on creating a business from her blog: I never set the intention to create what I’ve created here. I started sharing on my blog as a way to serve, and it literally, over the past six years almost now, it has literally just snowballed, and manifested into what it is today. I never, from day one, thought, “I’m gonna write books, and I’m gonna speak, and I’m gonna create this, and I’m gonna do that.” It was just about sharing, and serving. They were the two things. I wanted to share what I was learning, what I was realizing, and did that through writing on my blog, and then I wanted to serve. It all started with the intention of sharing and serving.

Melissa on money: It’s about worthiness, and asking, and owning your worth. I call it, in the book, “dialing up your worthy-ometer.” My worthy-ometer was on one. I didn’t own my message, and the work that I was doing, so I realized that I had to really work on my worthiness. I had to work on mastering your Mean Girl, and my worthiness, before I could feel like a 10 on the worthy-ometer, and then charge what was my truth. I see it a lot with women. I see women really struggle with that, and the whole notion of, “It’s not spiritual,” in inverted commas, “It’s not spiritual to ask for money.” Money’s just energy. It’s just like this chair I’m sitting on, and it’s just like this wall, and this vase, and this computer. It’s just energy.  People put so much power in money, and they let it run, and ruin, and dictate their lives. When they log in online, and see their bank balance, they let that dictate their happiness, and it will play on their mind for the rest of the day. It’s like jumping on the scales. People jump on the scales first thing in the morning. They let that little number dictate their entire worthiness, and their happiness. It’s the same with the bank balance. People let that really run their life, and use it as a way your Mean Girl can really master you. It’s not about burying your head in the sand with money. You’ve got to be very mindful.

Melissa on failure: I don’t ever call them failures. My husband, my team and I, they are opportunities for growth, and they are opportunities to pivot. One of the best pieces of advice someone gave me in business is, “Pivot, and pivot fast.” I think Lisa Messenger says, “Fail, and fail fast,” but I like the word, “Pivot, and pivot fast,” because it’s just about changing courses. It’s like, okay. I’m going down this road. Oh. Yup. It’s now bumpy? All right. I’m just going to take a left, and I’m going to go left. I might go down there for a little while, and then I’m like, oh, no. Yeah. There’s a broken bridge. All right. I’ve got to go right. It’s just about being pivoting, and being adaptable. I don’t see anything as a failure. I see them always as opportunities to pivot. That doesn’t mean I don’t feel like, “Ergh,” like a bit heavy about some things, but it’s just, the quicker you pivot, the better.

On Mother Nature: She is just incredibly healing, and so powerful. Mother Nature’s not even trying to be perfect, and beautiful, and she just is. We could learn a lot from that. She’s not even trying. She just is. Something so healing and powerful about connecting with her, because it brings you back into the present. No matter how stressful you are, how overwhelmed or anxious, you go to a park, you take your shoes off, and you pick up a leaf, or a flower, and you just stare at it. It’s about presence, mindfulness, and coming back to the moment. I have just been hiking in New Zealand last week, and I was literally brought to tears on this one hike, at the beauty of Mother Nature. I can’t even, I’m getting emotional even explaining it. I can’t even tell you. I was just far out. This just is mind blowing. It’s mind blowing. I think it’s so powerful because it brings you back into the present moment.

On her desires for the future:  In saying that, I have found, for me now, I have intentions of what I would like to achieve. I don’t care when they happen, and they’re things like travel things. I want to go to Lake Como, and I want to write New York Times bestselling books, and I want to do some great things. I want to have a baby. I want to travel more. I don’t necessarily have a date and time that I would like to achieve some of those things for, so the intention is there. I found for me, personally, I work in year goals. At the start of the year, I sit down with my husband on January 1st. Every year, we sit down, and we go through what we would like to achieve for the year, both with our health, or wealth, and our love. We also work on, we write down where we’d like to travel to. We also then write a letter to our future self, so on January 1st of this year, we wrote a letter to yourself for January 1st, 2016.

On balancing the masculine and feminine: I’m very good at turning the masculine on, and then turning it off. I know when to turn it on, and when to turn it off. Ultimately, it feels better in my body when I’m in my feminine, and it comes back to those feelings. I feel more graceful. I feel light. I feel sexy, when I’m in my feminine. There are times where I need to hustle a little, and I need to be in my masculine a little bit more. The challenge is then shaking the masculine off, and stepping back into your feminine. That’s where women find the challenge, because they go to work, they’re in this very masculine role. They come home, and then they just snap at their husband and their kids, and they make dinner with an attitude, and then they just throw it on the plate, and then eat it, and go to bed cranky.

Ultimately, if someone can walk in the door, and turn on your feminine, take off your masculine, turn on your feminine, and then step into that role, you’re going to feel so much better. For me, having a bath is one of the most tangible ways I can do that. Even something like jumping up and down on the spot, literally shaking my body, or going and rubbing some coconut oil on my skin. There’s so many little things that you can do, that feel good for you, like some stretching, some meditation. These are all things that work for me, and it’ll be different for every person, but even just putting some essential oils on my skin, or dry body brushing. Just doing one thing to help me transition to the feminine is really powerful, because know that when I’m at home, and I’m in my masculine, trying to be a wife, and a mum, and do all those things, it feels hard.

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Mastering Your Mean Girl with Melissa Ambrosini (TBTPS12) was last modified: December 13th, 2015 by Alice Nicholls



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